Before relocating to a new city last year, I had made exactly two new female friends in the last 15 years. I don’t mean that I didn’t meet any new girls through other connections such as work and friends-of friends, but the kind that comes from a sudden connection with a previously unknown person that develops into lasting friendship. One of the two that I did make as a grown-up just happened to relocate to the same new city at the same time, and her constant presence has been a tremendous blessing. But before her, my last entirely “new” friend happened when I was 21, and before that it was high school. I have always had lots of acquaintances. I am good at making acquaintances. But moving, as far as finding true and lasting female friendship goes, was daunting. I would just add to the acquaintance list, I figured.
The foundation of my prior acquaintances was proximity – cubicle neighbor, the wife of my husband’s childhood friend, the mom of the one kid that my kid plays with at the park. These are friendship of convenience. We are here, so we are friends.
Having the cloak of relocation-related friendlessness serves to open my mind and heart to strangers. Because I really have only one friend, there is heart space to see each new person with clear eyes.
Now new friendships are blissfully based solely on the soul of what a real friend is. In my new vibrant town, I meet someone new, a lot of new someones. We chat. If our words feel forced, or our values are too disparate for reconciliation, that’s okay. I will gratefully settle for acquaintance. But if we quickly fall into the joyful lose-track-of-time conversations that tend to accompany real connection, if being together leaves us both uplifted, I have the opportunity to pursue a friendship. I am new here. I need friends. That’s my in. I have made more wonderful, lasting connections in the past year than I did in the 20 that came before it. Change is good. Yes, change is good.
Sometimes I work for pennies. I do. I have one work from home job that pays exactly two cents for a small edit to something. On another site, there are surveys and tasks that pay a few pennies. But pennies add up. And a lot of people piece together pennies between real gigs. I know the rhetoric. I am an American. Pennies are far below minimum wage. Blah, blah, blah. The key is to keep the income coming in. There may not always be a great paying gig with regular checks. But if you can find a few pennies here and a few there, you can still pay that grocery bill.
So I paused my grocery shopping the other day to pry some information from a nice merchandiser stocking a popular coffee brand. She gave me some great information that only reinforces my belief that merchandising is a great mommy job. First, she clarified that many, many companies use merchandisers, not just Hallmark or Blue Mountain Arts. Any time you see a display or case in a store that is visually separate from the merchandise around it and is used solely for the display of one brand, there is probably a merchandiser job that goes with it. She makes her own schedule and winds up working a total of 15 to 20 hours per week, which includes store visits and data entry at home. She absolutely loves it and has been doing it for years. Her schedule is dictated somewhat by what days a store gets their deliveries (we were at Price Chopper on a Tuesday; they had gotten their coffee delivery Monday night) but otherwise she sets her hours. I am still trying to figure out how to locate merchandiser job postings (may CareerBuilder and search “merchandiser?”) but this is definitely a top three mommy job in my book, especially if your children are in school part or full day.
Happy hunting, Mommies!
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